There are several ways that you may interpret the word value.

Value as defined by Merriam-Webster dictionary:

the amount of money that something is worth : the price or cost of something
something that can be bought for a low or fair price

: usefulness or importance

The Value in which I am speaking of is found in the following definition:

Value: the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.

Finding a Value System for Your Life


How Do You Find A Value System For Your Life?

Sometimes it is easy to forget what is truly valuable in your life. Maybe you aren’t sure what is truly valuable in your life. When I looked at the definition above, I broke each part of it out and asked myself how I would answer the following questions.

Determining Where Your True Values Lie

Determining what your values are and your Value System, determines how you are living your life.

We need to set boundaries in our lives to develop our Value System, grow spiritually, and be fruitful in our lives.

All of us are inadequate in some way shape or form. We all fall short and have sin in our life.

Your Value System is what determines how you guard yourself from sin and how you work to remove the sin from your life.

Your Value System is what determines how you raise your children.

Your Value System is what determines how you live in society and what you do for your community.

On my personal evaluation of myself, I realized that I have been living my life following fears rather than what I value. As an example: Fear of not earning enough money to support my family and fear of not being present to care for my family. I have many fears, but these are the most prominent. I have allowed fear to reside in my life, and be the driving factor in my decision-making. In doing so, my reactions and responses to circumstances have been without my values at the core of my decision-making. In essence I have been living for fear rather than for God.

Living out of fear I had become someone who I did not recognize and someone I didn’t even like.

I had to have a real heart to heart with myself and God to evaluate where I was with my values and the way I was living.

Do you have a Value System that you and your family follow?

I encourage you to take the time to answer the following questions by yourself and with your family. Knowing the answers to these questions will help you to live your life according to the your values rather than according to circumstance or chance.

Look at the definition of Value again:

Value: The regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.


Who and what are you living your life for?

This was that hard reality check I had when I actually looked at my life. I realized that my life was being driven by fear, rather than God and family.  My answer to this question wasn’t fear of course, however when I looked at what I was doing in my life and why, fear was the answer. When I realized that I was not living my life for God and family, I sat down to determine what I needed to do to change that.

  1. How can I be more intentional in my life for Christ and the time I spend with my family?


  • What is most important to you?

What is most important to me is God and family.

  1. How can I show God and my family how important they are to me?
  2. How can I nurture my relationship through Christ with my children?
  3. What changes do I need to make in my life to put God and family first?

Worth and Usefulness:

  • What is useful and worth something in your life?

Answering the above questions I realized that I was not leaning on God for answers in prayer and through scripture. I was relying on my myself to determine what I needed to do and how to react and respond to situations. I was also not honoring my husband in our relationship by putting work and all of the stresses that came with it, above him and his needs.

  1. How can I retrain myself to come to God first with all things, through prayer and scriptures?
  2. How can I train myself to Listen rather than react out of fear?
  3. What changes do I need to make in order to show my husband respect and adoration for who he is and who God created for me?


Answering these questions helped me to look at my Value System and the changes that I needed to make in order to live a life according to what Gods will for me.


Do your values align with God’s value of you and what He wants for you?

Matthew 22:37-40New International Version (NIV)

37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment.39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

What are your values for yourself and for your family?

If Love is the greatest commandment, how can we incorporate Love into our Value System? What changes can we make in our life in order to be closer to Christ? How can we teach a value system to our children that makes God and family first? What steps can we take to show love to our community?

How can you make changes to improve your Value System?

I asked the above questions of myself in order to develop a value system in my life that puts God and family first. I spent time listening to my children and my husband and what they needed from me as a wife and mother. I prayed about the things that have been happening in our lives and what my family had been saying to me. I have been making changes daily to try to live a healthier and happier lifestyle. One of the changes that I made to ensure that I spent more time with God daily, was to get back on track with my morning routine. Spending time with God before I begin my day helps me to keep my values in check, and start my day positively. I would let fear and stress consume me and allowed circumstances to depict my day. Spending time with God first , calms me and helps me to be productive. I am able to listen to what He wants for me first.

Creating intentional time with my husband and my children is very important to me. My values were completely upside down, and when it came to the time that I spent with my family, it was a possibility, not a priority. The past two years I devoted my life to trying to help my husband’s company and it took a major toll on myself and my family. I forgot who I was as a wife and a mother, and I allowed fear to drive me. Now when I plan my days,  I put God first and time with family a priority, not a possibility. I have a Daily Schedule that I use to help me work towards my goals and to keep me on track each day. Some days are harder than others, and I fail to stay on track with my schedule. That’s okay. There is grace with Christ, and He is pruning me for greater things.

Do you have a Value System in place for your family? What are some of the things that you do to insure you are following your values rather than the world? I’d love to hear from you. Leave me a message. Thanks for reading:)